Feeling helpless is very frustrating, especially when you want to be there for someone. A very good friend of ours (LP & me) lost her father to cancer last night. The funeral is Thursday and there is no way we can attend. I am going on a business trip I cannot get out of... and the flights are outrageously expensive, even with the bereavement rates (which are not that much of a discount).
Our friend will not take it personally... it's just sad that we (or even just LP) cannot be there for her.